Wouldn’t It Be Nice?
I watched the Scott Fletcher interview on Huddled recently and he cringed when asked to name ’3 of the nicest people he knows in Manchester’ preferring to comment on the 3 he respects/looks up to which I interpreted that he doesn’t search to meet ‘nice’ people in his business life.
“Nice? What kind of word is that?”
I mentioned this interview to someone and they themselves recalled *thanking* someone for not calling them nice!
Is ‘nice’ a fluffy word to describe something/someone positive now? I always receive it as a compliment if someone comments that I’m nice (certainly been called worse in my history). Is there a negative connotation or is it simply not suitable/appropriate for describing personalities?
My grandparents were nice. Jaffa cakes are nice.
This lead me to ponder, what other words would be more suitable than nice? How about ‘pleasant’ or ‘great’ which are again positive but to me on complete different ends of the (+) spectrum. What word would you prefer others to describe you?
Nice is kindness and kindness is a virtue. According to Book Two of Aristotle‘s “Rhetoric” it is defined as virtue. It is defined as being “helpfulness towards some one in need, not in return for anything, nor for the advantage of the helper himself, but for that of the person helped”.
This reminds me of a book I recently read called The Go-Giver by Bob Burg (please take the time to read this if you haven’t).
On an article I found called ‘Why Do Nice Guys Finish Last?‘ the comments were that nice men don’t have any control over their personal lives and never stand up for themselves. It goes on to read that if you’re nice at heart, you’re nice. You treat people well. Embrace it – it’s a great quality to have but perhaps not to attract your perfect mate in your personal life! Is this different in your career life?
When I first met Lawrence Jones he asked me (forgive me for not recalling the exact words) what I wanted from my career, I quickly replied “I just want to be happy.” I was embarrassed with my answer for a long while, surely I could’ve come up with something more intelligent or thought-provoking than unlimited happiness? But after talking it over with Chris Maguire and Sue Kilshaw recently I’m pleased with my response.
Happiness in business must be one of the most (unspoken) important aspects. If the CEO or managing director is unhappy, their staff will know it and they’ll be affected by it. If the staff are unhappy the customers will pick up on it. The staff will probably eventually leave and so may the customers. My day consists of taking the time to 1) keep customers, 2) help them grow their businesses and 3) hope that they’ll happily refer us on.
I want them to love dealing with happy, nice people so that they’ll do those 3 things.
And at the end of the day, All You Need Is Love…